Why Does Modesty Matter?
Ok, ladies. I understand that modesty is just as important for guys as it is for you. But I want to talk to you directly today.
I’ve heard lots of Christians talk to you women about modesty through the years, but not all of them have approached the topic in the right way. Thus, the conversation often degenerates into something that is less than helpful at best, and harmful at worst.
A lot of discussions on modesty go something like this:
“Hey, ladies. You know that all men are prone to lust, right? Ok, so knowing that, make sure to dress modestly. You don’t want to be responsible for making your brother in Christ stumble. Oh yeah, and by the way, guys, lust is a problem. Don’t lust.”
In other words, according to that logic, you women are responsible to make sure men don’t stumble. A lot of you, Christian women, are saying things like this yourselves. Question: when did we get the idea that it is the sole responsibility of women to protect the hearts of all the guys? When did we get the idea that women are to blame because men are sinful? Where did you get these ideas, ladies?
Now, it’s obvious that I’m not saying women shouldn’t care about being modest because their choices don’t matter. I’m just trying to figure out why we have to talk about this issue as if women are the main contributors to the problem. It seems skewed to me. Lust is the issue here, and that’s on the man.
So, why does modesty actually matter? Why should women care? It matters because of what the Bible has to say about the dignity and worth of women, who are created in God’s image. The point is that because you, Christian woman, are created in God’s image, your honor matters. Your dignity matters. Your purity matters. You are a valued daughter of God Himself. You deserve respect. You deserve to be treated as one of God’s own, not objectified.
I don’t think it’s fair for the Christian culture to talk about modesty the way it does. Women, you need to hear that you’re not the main reason men stumble. Sin is. You need to stop bearing the weight of our purity and yours. It’s just not fair, and certainly not Biblical.
Yes, dress modestly, but not out of an obligation you feel toward men. Do it because Jesus has given you value and worth that should not be stripped away from you.